Stubborness

Sam at her favorite place to visit with her sister Miranda. She is in heaven!

In my family , I am usually the one that gets the title of stubborn one. I now have an arch rival.

Samantha is challenging us since the christmas break got over and school is supposed to resume. It did start for all the other kids. Sam is just figuring she doesn't need(more like want)to go. I tried hard yesterday and she just lay in her bed repeating ,"I want to stay home". This morning has begun like yesterday. Same spot, same place, same phrase. I called the school and we have brainstormed an idea which might work.

Her teacher and an aide are going to come over in a bus to see if this might trigger her to go back. This isn't going to be a sure fire scheme but it is worth the try. If she doesn't go for it I guess the school might have to send an aide to our house to teach her at home. That will be an eye opening for the school.

A few weeks before the holidays Sam's routine at school got disrupted. This combined with her routine at home changing has really thrown her for a loop. If you've read previous posts you will remember that her mom is now working. She was always the primary caretaker and now I have been thrown into that position. I feel Sam is rebelling because of her change at school. Once before in Alaska she did the same thing when she didn't get along with her teacher. Once she realized that she didn't have to deal with her teacher anymore she was motivated to go back. I think she has a similar problem now.

Change is something that we all hope Sam will be able to deal with as she progresses in life. At this present time she doesn't do well with sudden changes. She is all about routine. It will probably be necessary to hold another IEP meeting to brainstorm some ideas if this bus trick doesn't work.

Well we just tried showing her the bus and having her aide talk to her and we got the same response. I didn't think it would work but at this time I am game for anything. We decided to have her aide come over for a couple of hours each day to work with her. Hopefully Sam will do some work instead of looking like an ostrich with her head under the covers.

Sometimes I think we forget how much or what Sam can deal with. Pushing her to achieve is something that I feel might do more harm than good. I think the school has been pushing her a little to hard and she is rebelling. I know we all want her to succeed in school but how much is she really retaining. I'm not saying that we should quit trying but we need to listen to her and watch her behaviors to know when to back off and give her some space.

I will continue trying to get her to go back to school all day every day until I succeed or she gives in. Hopefully Sam will get bored at home and want to go back on her own. That would be the best result. But if not, we will see who is the most stubborn, won't we Sam.

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This isn't going to be a sure fire scheme but it is worth the try. If she doesn't go for it I guess the school might have to send an aide to our house to teach her at home. That will be an eye opening for the school.